The Chu Effect
Love is the ability to tolerate the other person’s imperfections. If they have too many imperfections or you have a low tolerance, the love dwindles.
We all know that God is love. If you take the interpolation between
the shortfalls of man and the omnipotence of God, we can come to rest
where this statement applies. If we can accept all of the shortcomings
of that special person to be who they are as opposed to being
negatives, we will start to highlight and magnify the positives they
have. Love is defined by the worst moments of your relationship. Society has
a cliche that opposites attract. But my experience states that there is a part II
to that cliche that says “… but they do not stay together long.” This Chu Effect quote is
the reason why. If the two of you do not have anything in common or you are on the
opposite ends of everything you encounter, your spirits will not be able to grow and
definitely not in harmony. You must have a lot in common in order to connect. If you don’t
have much in common, the relationship changes to one of a battle of control. Would you
rather have a relationship that chooses connection or one that chooses control? How do
you dictate which one prevails?
From the book, “The Long Hot Marriage” by Todd Creager
“Realistically, we should remember that [our partner] will not always be thinking about us or physically there for us. They have needs, fears, and desires of their own. After about six months into the relationship ill feeling emerge and the illusion of [our partner] being an ideal parent collapses. We become disappointed and disillusioned with our partner. If it hasn’t dawned upon you before, it’s time to realize that we cannot always have our own way and we are probably not going to be perfectly loved. This is reality.”
